Teenage Relationships

“If you are in a relationship with someone, you should feel loved, safe, respected and free to be yourself. If your relationship leaves you feeling scared, intimidated or controlled, it’s possible you’re in an abusive relationship.”

[This Is Abuse website]


  • Does your boyfriend/girlfriend get angry when you want to spend time with friends or demand that you spend all your time with them?
  • Does he/she check your phone, email, Facebook and Twitter accounts? Does he/she try to get you to delete/defriend people, take down photos or stop messaging your friends?
  • Has he/she hit you, said it will never happen again and begged your forgiveness, but then it happened again?
  • Has he/she ‘persuaded’ you to have sex or perform a sexual act when you didn’t want to?


These are some of the signs of abusive relationships. Often it starts with a few comments such as ‘you’re not wearing that are you?’ and ‘why do you have to spend time with them, you should be with me?’, but can escalate into physical and mental abuse (see the relationship wheel on the home page).


Where to get help

If you believe you are in danger, ring 999.  Report your partner to the police 101 if is not an emergency; the domestic abuse team will arrange for someone to call you back.

Talk to someone you trust; parents, teachers/tutors, or a friend; ask them to help and support you.

Visit the This Is Abuse website for practical support and advice.

The Home Office and the Government Equalities Office have this year launched a new teenage relationship abuse campaign, 'Disrespect Nobody' aimed at 12 to 18 year old boys and girls aims to prevent young people from becoming perpetrators and victims of abusive relationships by encouraging them to re-think their views of violence, abuse, controlling behaviour and what consent means within their relationships.  Go to the new website www.disrespectnobody.co.uk where you can get further information about organisations which can provide help and support. 

Talk to one of the agencies shown on this page who are there to help.  They have helped many people in your situation before and will be able to give you support.

Luton All Women's Centre has launched the Young Women’s ‘ Respect’ Support Service which will provide one to one support and group work activities to vulnerable young women aged 13-25, including those at risk of domestic abuse, relationship abuse, sexual abuse or sexual exploitation.

Vulnerable 18 and over

If you are disabled, or have mental health issues, and are experiencing domestic abuse, please contact the Adult Safeguarding team who can help you.


Don’t feel pressured to stay in the relationship; it doesn’t matter what others say or think – it matters that you are safe and free to find someone who wants to be with you for the right reasons.


Information for parents, carers and others

The Home Office booklets Teenage Relationship Abuse: a parent's and carer's guide to violence and abuse in teenage relationships and Do You Know if Your Teenager is in an Abusive Relationship? give advice for parents and carers on teenage relationship abuse.

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