Voluntary organisation supporting women and children from all backgrounds and circumstances experiencing domestic abuse from listening to support to break away and start again.Call us Email us
Honour based abuse is a crime or incident which has or may have been committed to protect or defend the honour of the family or community, where they believe one of their members (usually, but not always, female) has shamed them. It often occurs with the approval and/or help from family or community members. Sometimes abuse is also taken out on siblings.
Incidents of abuse include murder, unexplained death (suicide), assault, rape, kidnapping, confinement or imprisonment, or forcing someone into marriage (see also Forced Marriage). Honour based abuse happens in a variety of cultures, nationalities, faith groups and communities.
There is no ‘honour’ in honour-based abuse, and it is illegal.
A person suffering honour-based abuse may :
- only be allowed out under supervision, unless going to specific places such as school
- become increasingly withdrawn, and/or be kept away from friends
- no longer have access to phones, the internet or their passport
- change their behaviours and method of dress to a more ‘traditional’ form
- be suddenly sent abroad to live with family
If you believe your life (or that of someone you know) is at risk, dial 999 immediately.
There are a range of agencies who can help. Seek guidance from Luton All Women's Centre, Women's Aid in Luton, Stepping Stones, Bedfordshire Police Domestic Abuse Investigation Unit , or other agencies listed on this page to talk through your exact situation and the options open to you. You can also talk to your GP or other health worker, or your or your children’s school, college or childrens centre. Do not let your family or social network know you are doing this or you may put yourself in further danger.
Other Specialist Advice/Support
The following can also offer specific advice if you are (or the person you are concerned about is) :
A Child or Young Person: contact Childline. You can call email, or log on for 1-2-1 support.
Male: contact the Men's Advice Line
Warning signs to watch for
- “When my parents found out I was communicating with Western friends, both boys and girls, on Facebook I was told I had dishonoured my family; they hit me and I had to stay in for a week until I had healed. I am really scared now.”
- “I am homosexual, my uncle says I have shamed my community. My cousins beat me up and I am going to be sent to Pakistan to marry a cousin to “straighten me out."
- “I’m really worried; I haven’t seen her for ages – I know her mum was really angry she wanted to go to college, have a career and marry her non-traveller boyfriend.”
Free and confidential help to victims of crime (including domestic abuse, rape and sexual assault), witnesses, their family, friends and anyone else affected. The national SupportLine number is 0808 168 9111, and the number for the Regional Victim Assessment and Referral Centre (VARC) office covering Luton is below.Call us
Confidential women only service including advice and support around domestic abuse, forced marriage, honour based issues. Also runs a Young Women's Programme and Freedom programme and support for parents.Call us Email us
Free, confidential 24hr helpline for women experiencing domestic violence. Translation facilities and a service for callers who are deaf or hard of hearing.Call us
Nowe Życie Bez Przemocy (A new life without violence) is a Polish website with information for victims of domestic violence living in the UK. The main purpose of the helpline is to provide Polish people who experience domestic violence with a confidential contact, which will allow them to talk about their situation in their native language and to obtain information about available help and support. It co-operates with English and Polish organisations and support groups with the aim of referring victims to them. The line is currently open on Tuesdays 10.00 - 12.00 and 13.00 - 15.00 and Wednesdays from 10.00 to 16.00Call us Email us
The National Stalking Helpline responds to nearly 3,000 victims of stalking each year. A small team of highly trained staff and volunteers provide – by phone and email – information and guidance on the law, how to report stalking, gathering evidence, staying safe and reducing the risk.Call us Email us
Offers a range of services and projects to support communities to integrate into wider society and become active citizens. The organisation provides a much needed secure space where women can support each other as well as learn together to empower themselves and their families. It is dedicated to the cause of combating poverty, discrimination, abuse and social exclusion among Black, Asian, minority ethnic, refugee and asylum women.
The UK Border Agency can offer help and advice to asylum seekers experiencing domestic violence.
Helpline supporting male and female victims of forced marriage and honour based violence. Postal address: PO Box 515, Leeds, LS6 3DWCall us