Children & Young People

Teenage Relationships

Violence in a relationship is always wrong. If your relationship leaves you feeling scared, intimidated or controlled, it’s possible you’re in an abusive relationship.

Forced Marriage

A forced marriage is where one or both people do not or cannot consent to the marriage and pressure or abuse is used.Forced marriage can happen to anyone despite their sex, sexual preference, disability, faith or ethnicity.

Honour Based Violence

Honour based abuse is a crime or incident which has or may have been committed to protect or defend the honour of the family or community, where they believe one of their members has shamed them.

Sexual Abuse

A child is sexually abused when they are forced or persuaded to take part in sexual activities which includes anything from inappropriate touching, to serious assault and rape.

Female Genital Mutilation

Female genital mutilation (sometimes referred to as female circumcision) refers to procedures that intentionally alter or cause injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons. It can involve partial or total removal of the external female genitalia. The FGM procedure has no health benefits for girls and women.

 

 

 

 

Domestic abuse happens when one person in a relationship (for example husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend, partners, parent and child, child and parent) forces the other one to behave the way they want them to; they control them.  They do not have to be living together but they do have to be in or have been in a relationship for it to be called domestic abuse.

It is frightening for the children involved whether they are directly abused or not.  It can mean they always feel nervous, or scared; like they can’t trust anyone, or angry, or that they always need to show they are strong (or have to bully others).  It can also lead to problems with sleeping, talking to people or concentrating at school.  They may not understand why it is happening, and why the person being abused lets it happen.

Domestic abuse is not your fault, and there are people you can talk to in confidence about your experiences and feelings, and who can help with your questions.

If you are not sure what abuse is then have a look at the This is Abuse website, where there is lots of advice and useful information about what abuse is and how to get help; whether this is for you, a friend or a family member.

Note : If you or any of your family are in immediate danger, always ring 999; give your name and address and tell the police what is happening; don’t hang up - leave the phone off the hook so the operator can hear what is going on.

Being forced to marry someone you don’t want to is also abuse; if you are facing a forced marriage, please look at the Forced Marriage page.

Childline are there to speak to any time of the day or night (telephone 0800 1111) – they also have messageboards, the ‘Ask Sam’ advice area, and online chat.

You could speak to a teacher, doctor or other adult you trust.

The Hideout has videos and information for under 10's here and over 10's here.

Refuge is a site for everyone about domestic abuse, but has specific pages for children and young people.  You probably have a lot of questions; here are some answers from the same site.

 

Teenage relationships

Abuse does happen in teenage relationships, but if it is your relationship it can difficult to see it happening.  Check the Teenage Relationships page for more on signs of an abusive relationship and how to get help.

 

Children’s IDVA

The Children’s IDVA service are trained advisers who will give you confidential advice and support; to help you understand what is happening and  talk about the different options and keeping yourself safe ; if you are 13 or over then you may be referred to the team by another organisation.

See also : Forced Marriage, Teenage Relationships

TOKKO Youth Centre

Providing new opportunities for young people from across Luton and the surrounding areas to learn and develop their own skills and talents in a safe, friendly and inclusive environment. Offers Youth Centre services, art & activities & counselling, Runs a Young Fathers Project, hosts Autism Beds and Food Bank and various drop-ins including Luton Rights & Womens Aid,

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National Stalking Helpline

The National Stalking Helpline responds to nearly 3,000 victims of stalking each year. A small team of highly trained staff and volunteers provide – by phone and email – information and guidance on the law, how to report stalking, gathering evidence, staying safe and reducing the risk.

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Brook

Brook's mission is to enable young people to enjoy their sexuality without harm. Brook provides free and confidential sexual health services specifically for young people under 25. The Ask Brook service provides sexual health information, support and signposting for all young people under 25 anywhere in the UK and also provides training for professionals. Provides Text Ask Brook service on 07717 989023 (standard SMS rate)

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This is Abuse

On-line information, chat, signposting and advice on support aimed at all young people. Part of the Home Office 'This is Abuse' campaign.

The Hideout

On-line information and support for children and young people living with domestic violence.

Respect Not Fear

Website aimed at young people with information and support around self esteem, relationships and life decisions.