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Information For Parents
Domestic abuse affects children and young people. Even if the abuse is not targeted at them, they do hear and see what is happening around them; and pick up on the underlying tensions and emotions from a very young age. Children living with domestic abuse can often be afraid, withdrawn, angry, lack confidence, have sleeping problems or have problems at school. The NSPCC’s Whole Woman booklet gives more information for parents, and the Women’s Aid Survivors Handbook has detailed advice for everyone experiencing domestic abuse – this is their page on children and domestic violence.
If you want to speak to someone to find a way forward, Stepping Stones, Women's Aid in Luton, Luton All Women's Centre and Victim Support can help and advise you and your children. The Luton Safeguarding Children's Board can also help you. Other, specialised organisations are shown on this page.
Teenage Relationship Abuse
Domestic abuse can also happen within teenage relationships. Warning signs can include :
- no longer spending time with their usual circle of friends
- constantly checking a mobile phone
- being withdrawn or quiet
- changing their appearance, clothes, make up or style
- making excuses for a boyfriend or girlfriend
The Home Office booklet Teenage Relationship Abuse : a parent's and carer's guide to violence and abuse in teenage relationships and Do You Know if Your Teenager is in an Abusive Relationship? give advice for parents and carers on teenage relationship abuse, along with their dedicated website.
If you believe your teenager is in such a relationship, they may find this page useful.
Luton All Women's Centre has launched the Young Women’s ‘ Respect’ Support Service which will provide one to one support and group work activities to vulnerable young women aged 13-25, including those at risk of domestic abuse, relationship abuse, sexual abuse or sexual exploitation.
The Home Office and the Government Equalities Office have this year launched a new teenage relationship abuse campaign, 'Disrespect Nobody' aimed at 12 to 18 year old boys and girls aims to prevent young people from becoming perpetrators and victims of abusive relationships by encouraging them to re-think their views of violence, abuse, controlling behaviour and what consent means within their relationships. Go to the new website www.disrespectnobody.co.uk where you can get further information about organisations which can provide help and support.
Vulnerable 18 and over
If your child is disabled, or has mental health issues, and is experiencing domestic abuse, please contact the Luton Safeguarding Adults team who can help you.
Children and Young People Page
We would encourage you to look at the page for Children and Young People on this site, and if possible show your children. They have links to national websites (Childline, The Hideout) aimed at children and young people living with domestic abuse, and can help them understand what is happening, any changes that happen as you move out of your situation, and their feelings and responses.
The Freedom Programme
Parents moving away from an abusive relationship, can often be offered a place on a Freedom Programme course; which helps them understand how they (and their children) have been affected and how they can help them to move forwards to a more settled, calm, confident position. The following are some of the agencies in Luton offering the Freedom Programme :
You can also sign up to do the Freedom Programme online via their website; a small charge is applicable.
Warning signs to watch for
- "When I was little and I knew he was due in I used to put my head on the floor of the bedroom and listen."
- "I knew when my mum had been hitting my dad because the whole house felt different; I also knew to stay out of the way in case I was next."
- "I didn’t realise how much it had affected the children until we got out and they began to smile and laugh without first glancing round to see if it was okay."
Voluntary organisation supporting women and children from all backgrounds and circumstances experiencing domestic abuse from listening to support to break away and start again.Call us Email us
Free and confidential help to victims of crime (including domestic abuse, rape and sexual assault), witnesses, their family, friends and anyone else affected. The national SupportLine number is 0808 168 9111, and the number for the Regional Victim Assessment and Referral Centre (VARC) office covering Luton is below.Call us
Offers help and support to women affected by any drug/alcohol, domestic abuse, mental health and social care related issues. Includes Ofsted registered child care provisionCall us
Confidential women only service including advice and support around domestic abuse, forced marriage, honour based issues. Also runs a Young Women's Programme and Freedom programme and support for parents.Call us Email us
The centre works with the local community to offer support to those who need it to improve outcomes for children and families and meet ever changing needs. They run the Freedom Programme in English and Polish. Building Blocks Children's Centre, Dunstable Road, Luton, LU4 8BWCall us Email us
Free, confidential 24hr helpline for women experiencing domestic violence. Translation facilities and a service for callers who are deaf or hard of hearing.Call us
Offering the Freedom Programme in Lewsey Farm area. Contact: Wendy for more infoCall us
Redgrave Children and Young People's Centre is now the overarching name for various venues delivering services to families. The sites we cover are based at Redgrave Children & Young People’s Centre, Gill Blowers Nursery School (Leabank), Grasmere Nursery School, Limbury Community Centre and Cheynes Infants.Call us Email us
Community Link Children’s Centre is now the overarching name for various venues delivering a variety of services to families including: Midwife & Baby Clinics, Strengthening families strengthening communities, Stay and play sessions, Post-natal depression groups, Young parents groups, Healthy eating and cooking, Mellow Parenting, Bump 2 Babe, Baby massage, Legal advice, Sing and sign, Adult learning, Weaning groups, Development checks, Freedom Programme and Dad's groups. The sites we cover are based at Leagrave Primary School, Gill Blowers Nursery School (Hockwell), Beechwood Primary School and Chaul End Community Centre.Call us Email us
Nowe Życie Bez Przemocy (A new life without violence) is a Polish website with information for victims of domestic violence living in the UK. The main purpose of the helpline is to provide Polish people who experience domestic violence with a confidential contact, which will allow them to talk about their situation in their native language and to obtain information about available help and support. It co-operates with English and Polish organisations and support groups with the aim of referring victims to them. The line is currently open on Tuesdays 10.00 - 12.00 and 13.00 - 15.00 and Wednesdays from 10.00 to 16.00Call us Email us
Free expert advice about increasing your on-line safety.
The National Stalking Helpline responds to nearly 3,000 victims of stalking each year. A small team of highly trained staff and volunteers provide – by phone and email – information and guidance on the law, how to report stalking, gathering evidence, staying safe and reducing the risk.Call us Email us
Independent Domestic Violence Advisory Service for Luton providing free, independent and confidential support & advocacy for very high risk cases of domestic abuse or those where professional judgement is applied - referrals accepted from all statutory and non statutory agencies. Contact for advice or further details. Secure email address available for referrals.Call us Email us
Mind BLMK offers a range of services aimed at meeting individual needs and promoting mental health recovery, wellbeing and independance. Offers mentoring and various activity groups such as cooking, computers, creative writing, relaxation and drop in time at the centre in Dumfries Street in Luton, LU1 5BP. Services are recovery-focused, this involves everyone who we support being assessed against specific criteria.Call us Email us
A centre for women with English as a second language and/or England as a second country providing a safe space for friendship, fun and learning.Call us Email us
Mosac is a voluntary organisation supporting all non-abusing parents and carers whose children have been sexually abused. They provide various types of support services and information for parents, carers and professionals dealing with child sexual abuse.Call us Email us
Changing Lives offer confidential counselling and support programmes aimed at both individuals and families, dealing with issues such as domestic abuse, mental health needs, drug and alcohol dependence, parent’s unresolved trauma, and deprivation.Call us Email us
The Safeguarding Adults Team aims to work with the person who has been abused to safeguard them and endeavours to put the person who has been abused in control. Anyone who is concerned about a friend or relative can speak to the team.Call us Email us
Confidential, non-judgmental emotional support for people experiencing feelings of distress or despair (including suicidal thoughts), 24 hours a day.Call us Email us
National charity working to end domestic violence against women & children.Call us
DIAL is an independent network of local disability information and advice services, run by and for disabled peopleCall us Email us
On-line information, chat, signposting and advice on support aimed at all young people. Part of the Home Office 'This is Abuse' campaign.
On-line information and support for children and young people living with domestic violence.
Safeguarding information re activities outside the home – from after school art clubs to weekend reading groups. Sharing good practice.
Advice and guidance for professionals, children, young people, families around safeguarding and the work of the LSCB.Call us Email us
Training designed to teach women about the reality of domestic violence and abuse on themselves and their children. You can do the course online (charge applies), or find local provider. Also see information library entry on our professionals page www.lutondomesticabuse.co.uk/professionalsEmail us